Before you Throw in the Towel

Remarrriages have a higher failure rate than first marriages.We think if we just change partners, our problems will be solved. Not so.And if there are children involved, you’ll turn some perfectly nice person into a stepmother or stepfather. In remarriages with children – step families – the divorce rate is even higher.

Our research estimates that 55-60% of marriages that end in divorce fall into the category of “good enough marriages”. These marriages appear to be functioning well only a year or so prior to the divorce. From a child’s perspective, these divorce are unexpected, inexplicable, and unwelcome and are thus most likely to harm children.

These marriages are significantly more likely to divorce because of infidelity, which they blame on “drifting apart” or “communication problems”. These 50-60% of divorces are unlikely to mention abuse because these were not highly conflicted marriages. – Couples can take a simple Marriage Education class and learn the skills to communicate and fall back in love.Divorce causes a decrease in wealth that is larger than just splitting acouple’s assets in half. Divorce drops a person’s wealth by an average of 77%.